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Swingers Lifestyle Contact Etiquette

A few basic guidelines for creating and responding to swingers ads.


Please respond to all messages you receive from respondents.

Most of them will have spent time plucking up courage to write to you, and time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to notice them.

It does not need to be a long letter, a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the respondent know they have failed. I know that I for one check my mail eagerly after I send every response, hoping that someone has written back to me.

Please note: We do not allow escorts to advertise for business. If you are an escort advertising for play friends please use a different e-mail address from that used for your business. If we are made aware of any escorts advertising or of people being asked for payment when responding to ads we will delete the offending profile.


Always be polite.

Tell the advertiser what you like about their profile.

Tell them how you think you will meet their requirements.

If you enclose a picture show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a shot of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their profile).

Keep the language clean, match your response to the profile. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.

If you are turned down by someone, don't contact them again, this would count as harrasment - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser.

Swinging is all about everyone having fun with people who are attracted to each other. There is no requirement or expectation that people will play with any one.